The Banal lives of Bollywood Wives

Recently, I watched the Netflix series ‘Fabulous lives of Bollywood Wives‘. After watching this show, I simply find no words to rate or assess this show. The show lacks complete originality and so I decided to name it as ‘banal’ instead of the so called given name ‘fabulous’.

To begin with the review, the show portrays the life of 4 bollywood families, which are the Kapoors ( there are many kapoors in bollywood, and the least famous is shown in this series), Khans, Pandey and Soni. The former two (Sanjay and Maheep Kapoor, Seema and Sohail Khan) are known to be a part of the bollywood elite, but I have no idea why Pandey ( Chunky and Bhavna) and Soni (Samir and Neelam) are a part of this show, even though they have acted in quite a few movies, but certainly they are not very famous.

The 8 episode series shows the life of four wives, Maheep, Seema, Bhavna and Neelam. I find all four of them obsessed with fake accents, speaking bad words including the F*** word, self obsession over looks, boasting of wealth, and desperate attempt to launch their kids in this industry. All four of them are seen to be demanding, money and fame driven, unrespectful of each other or even the common people. Their abroad trips to Paris or Doha, performing facelift for anti-aging, petty fights, drinking, clandestine attempt to seduce other men is not at all fabulous. All this does not make them fabulous or respected either. Hence, I was disappointed to see the pitiful life of bollywood wives shown in this series. I find this series to be a waste of time and utterly banal.

But, at the same time, after watching this series, we also understand what bollywood is in reality. Most Indians, and even abroad watch bollywood movies, and many of us are die hard fans of the actors and actresses. Starting from the golden age of bollywood in 1950’s and 60’s ( with Raj Kapoor, Dev Anand and Dilip Kumar), to the angry young man era of Amitabh Bachchan in 1970’s and 80’s, from the romantic 90’s ( with Shahrukh, Salman and Amir Khan) to the modern age cinema of 2000’s and 2010’s, bollywood has always been the defacto entertainment for the Indian audience ( apart from Cricket). We all love and follow the way these superstars act, talk, walk, dance and sing. We even emulate their way of life and dream to become rich and famous like them.

But the reality shown in the movies, is not always the reality of life. Even though I have tremendous respect for bollywood stars like Amitabh, Shahrukh, Amir and many more ( especially the golden age era or even the parallel cinema of 1970’s and 80’s). But still bollywood life has always been mired with obsession for looks, wealth, fame, cut throat competition and jealousy. The actors and actresses are never happy in their life. The uncertainity of career and fear of being surpassed by talented new comers is always there. They often resort to drinking, smoking, recreational drugs, extra marital affairs to get rid of excess stress and fear of losing the fame. Ofcourse, not everyone does this, but bollywood is certainly not a very comforting or accomodating place.

Even worse than these vices, is the nepotism. Just like politics in India, bollywood is stained with nepotism. Everyone knows that nepotism runs in the blood of bollywood. If we look at the top families of bollywood, be it Kapoors, Khans, Bachchans, Bhatt’s, Deol’s, Chopra’s or Mukherjee-Samarth family, all have been in this industry for decades, generations after generations. Even though, nepotism does not demote their acting skills, as I agree as most Indians would, that these families inspite of their nepotism have been skilled and very professional in the show business. Along with their good photogenic looks, they carry the sophistication of being a brand and have glorified the Indian cinema for years at the global stage with their sheer hard work and dedication.

The famous Kapoor family and family tree
Bachchan family
Anil Kapoor family and tree
Salman Khan family and tree

But still the biggest disadvantage of neoptism is unleveling of the ground for new comers. The kids of famous bollywood families get the leverage and attention to rise up fairly easy, and this makes the life of newcomers difficult who inspite of their talent, may not always succeed in bollywood.

Even though there are exceptions like Shah Rukh Khan, Jackie Shroff, Ayushmann Khurana, Madhuri Dixit, Kanagana Ranaut, Sushant Singh Rajput etc. Many of the outsiders have succeeded, even though less than the number who fail or get thrown away due to nepotism. The case of Sushant Singh Rajput’s suicide is the most famous example of the struggle and hardships an outsider has to endure to earn a name in this unforgiving industry. But finally, beyond nepotism, it is said that ‘work begets work’ and this has been even agreed upon by Sanjay Kapoor in this Netflix series, that finally work brings more work.

I think this is the only good part of this series, that finally, the bollywood is coming to an understanding that its not nepotism or connections but work brings more work, fame and recognition. That’s why Shah Rukh Khan (SRK), an outsider became the ‘King Khan of Bollywood’, while Abhishek Bachchan, who is the son of ‘Big B’ Amitabh Bachchan ( an outsider himself) could not earn that reputation like his father earned.

Finally, in the series, I find the most disgusting part is the shallow, fake and banal lives of the bollywood wives shown by the king of nepotism Karan Johar . Actually, they are not even part of bollywood who are successful. They are just missing that success and fame, which SRK, or Big B families have garnered. That’s why they are jealous of others, and desperate to launch their kids to earn that fame and wealth, which they could not earn. So, its worth noting that the life shown in this series is not always the typical bollywood wives life.

Infact, there are many actually talented, real bollywood wives like Kajol ( wife of Ajay Devgn, who stays away from bollywood limelight), Madhuri Dixit( married to a surgeon), Shabana Azmi ( wife of famed poet and lyricist Javed Akhtar), Hema Malini ( wife of Dharmendra), Jaya Bachchan ( wife of Amitabh Bachchan), Ratna Pathak Shah( wife of Naseeruddin Shah), Zeenat Aman, Gracy Singh and many more. They are the real gems and queens of bollywood. These wives/actresses do not behave or live a so called ‘fabulous’ life as shown in the Karan Johar ‘KJo’ produced netflix series. They often live a simple life, away from limelight after their acting career is over. Many of them are excellent housewives, and even some of them are in politics or social service. They are the real bollywood wives, and not the four wives shown in the series.

Thus, I end this review with the understanding that even though there are some fringe elements in bollywood as shown in this netflix series,& even though there is nepotism, family dynasties, cut throat competition, jealousy breeding grounds etc, but at the end, its always the work and talent which stays forever at the end.

Author: Abhi

Hello, this is Abhishek. I am an Electrical Engineer by education, and worked for an Energy Management company in Atlanta, USA. After staying for 5 years in United States, I have moved back to my country, India. Besides work, I am a bibliophile and enjoys reading about history, current affairs, and biographies. I practice ‘Sudarshan Kriya Yoga‘ meditation and volunteer for a NGO, Art of Living. I am a vegetarian, and also a fitness enthusiast. I intend to work for spreading awareness about Cancer. Finally, I enjoy writing and I hope to integrate this interest into my career with more experience. Please like, share and subscribe to my blog. Thank you for visiting!

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